Attachment Parenting

What exactly is Attachment Parenting?

My idea of Attachment Parenting goes beyond some traditional explanations more than likely:

Attachment Parenting is basically listening to your heart and believing in yourself as a parent to know what is best for your child.  It’s trusting yourself and knowing what is best for you as well. When we trust ourselves we easily trust our child and we do it in some of the following ways:

• We trust that our child has been born exactly as he is supposed to be.  That he is carrying the biology of the families he was created by and that he tells a family story.  We trust that he is born innocent, loving and very trusting of us. We do not feel the need to make him “wrong” or change him or train him to be loving or good.  We celebrate him for all that he is.
• We trust that our child is doing the very best he can do at any given time and we believe in him.
• We don’t feel we have to control, punish, and reprimand the child.  We don’t label behavior as good or bad. We see all behavior as opportunity to learn more about what our child may need and how they operate.  Behavior is a key into a door of what emotions or stories our child carries.
• We realize that our children tell a story about us and that we can see ourselves more clearly through our children in simple daily activities.  We can use this as a great opportunity for personal spiritual growth and clarity.
• We understand that it is unfair and not realistic to expect children to behave in ways that make us comfortable at all times. Adults cannot even accomplish this task.  If behavior is uncomfortable for the child or the adult, we get a chance to look more closely and see what stresses may have occurred or where there may be fear or confusion showing up for the child. We respond by assisting the child through the process.
• We do not set out to teach life’s lessons, we allow them to come and we model positive responses.  Life has its frustrations and hardships and joys and thrills and each child has the right to observe these and learn the lessons from them in his own time.
• We allow our children to experience their emotions.  We do not make any emotions wrong.  By showing emotion ourselves and stepping into Spiritual Leadership State we show a deep respect for the human condition and the access to Spiritual states that allow a fully integrated way of living.
• We live by the principals of non-violent communication. We do not shame, humiliate or make our children wrong. We do not hit, spank, grab or smack our children.  Punishment is a very damaging response to a child’s behavior. No child or parent feels good about this response during or afterwards.
• We do treat our children the way we wish to be treated and wished to be treated when we were growing up. With love and trust, respect, honor and compassion. We trust our children to know what they need and we help them get it.
• We take complete responsibility for our state of being and we do not project blame outward upon our children.
• We model excellent respect for our body, mind and spirit and make available to our children the very best foods, drink, exercise, rest and learning environment for them to thrive in.

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